I created a blog post on Amber, on Monday, and in that post I discussed how disturbing her behavior has become and that her behavior warrants an investigation by CPS. A lot of readers agreed. Not just on my blog, but nearly everywhere. This was a big discussion online. And I’m sure plenty of people were disturbed when they watched Episode 10, which premiered on Tuesday. I finally took the time to watch that episode last night. I’ll give a review of the entire show next Monday, but today I wanted to talk about Amber’s behavior on this episode and MTV’s role in this as well.
First, I’m a bit disappointed in MTV for even showing viewers (teenagers, adults, moms, etc) this BLATANT form of abuse and dysfunctionalism. This behavior is the LAST thing we want to see amongst young relationships, especially those of “teen moms” who are supposed to show other teenagers how they are making the “best” of their situations. On one hand we can say that by showing Amber’s behavior, MTV has in fact showed us the reality of a CERTAIN type of parenting that we all should AVOID. That’s great. And if this is MTV’s intention for showing this clip then that makes me feel a little bit better about what I watched last night.
On the other hand this show is also a way for teens who may be in that situation, to learn how to deal with the situation in a mature “healthy” manner despite the odds they’ll face. We see Farrah, Maci and even Catelynn and Tyler making positive changes and growing tremendously between 16 and pregnant and this second season of Teen mom. They all represent ways in which teen moms can overcome the odds and still be decent parents. Amber is not progressing in any shape or form(beyond weight loss) and therefore it’s a bit disturbing that MTV continues to show “negative clips” of Amber participating in negative behaviors. She’s been made into the Villian of the show–and that’s a completely different debate that I’ll leave for another time. But sticking to the topic–I’m having a hard time identifying the reason why MTV showed that clip.
Matter of fact CPS is investigating Amber, as we all have heard, and they’ve stated that they received NO report from MTV at all of abuse prior to watching this episode. This means that MTV did not REPORT Amber to CPS and for that reason I’m disappointed. If CPS does find something on Amber(which I’m sure they will) she will temporarily lose custody of her child. This could do two things to Amber: cause her life to take a whirlwind for the worse, or cause her to do better. We hope for the latter, but plenty of mom’s found themselves on a path to self-destruction upon losing their children for their OWN bad behaviors. Amber already doesn’t have a GED, she already has anger problems, and clearly doesn’t know how to be in healthy relationship. This video footage has exposed her to millions of people, and could seriously “affect” her opportunities in the future(job placement, relationships, etc). I wish Amber the best, and I do hope she gets help, no matter what happens. But being that she is already in a sea of negative circumstances, I predict that things may get worse before they get better.
There are other implications(serious ones) that effect Leah, and Gary, and I’ll discuss those next week. But(sticking to the topic) there is a lot of speculation about Amber and her behavior these last two seasons. Obviously at this point since she is under investigation there isn’t much she can do right now to stop the investigation from happening, BUT she can identify what has caused her to become this angry, abusive, teen mother. Which I hope through counseling she is able to address and understand. But here are some of the speculations that have been formed about Amber:
1. Drugs. This is primarily because she’s lost a ton of weight–and friends of Amber’s have stated that Amber has always been chunky. The quick and significant weight loss, coupled with anger, aggression, depression and neglect(Leah) all indicate drug use(Cocaine).
2. Acting for negative attention. One girl, on a message board, stated she used to be Amber’s friend and that Amber was never like this. So many people have suggested that she may be acting this way for “attention” and publicity. Negative attention is often seen as “better” than none at all. And plenty of celebrities use this tactic and strategy to garner public attention.
3. PPD(Post Partum Depression) and the effects of depressants. Finally many people have suggested that Amber may be redirecting her anger at Leah and the fact that her life has drastically changed and churning that anger onto Gary since he is an “easy” target. There is also suggestion that her medication may be fueling her aggression(which is a side effect).
All three of these reasons are valid explanations for her behavior.
Obviously, no matter the reason for her behavior, I hope she gets help. I also hope Teen Moms(and moms in general) understand that her behavior is FAR from acceptable.